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        • 2 The CWWPP >
          • Introduction to the CWWPP - Comments
        • 3 PET
        • 4 Facilitation
        • 5 Additional Remarks on the Course >
          • Inventarization
      • 2 The Caregiver-Client Relationship >
        • 1 Introduction and the Caregiver Client Relationship as the Basis of Everything
        • 2 Some First Principles >
          • Taking an Interest In and Concentrating on the Client
          • Taking An Attitude of Humanity and Compassion
          • Listening and Responding to the Total Person
        • 3 Some Points About Language and Getting to Know the Client >
          • Activities - Using Language That the Person Can Understand
          • Activities - Taking the Time and Getting As Much Information as Possible
          • Activities - Feelings
          • Activities - Motives
          • Activities - Interests
          • Activities - Content and Its Interpretation
          • Activities - Assumptions
          • Activities - Prejudices
          • Activities - Expectations
          • Activities - Generalizations
          • Activities -Final Remarks
        • 4 Creating the Right Atmosphere >
          • Activities - The Physical Environment
          • Activities - Formality
          • The Theme of the Session
          • Activities - The Presence of Other People in the Session
          • Activities - The Pressure on the Caregiver and the Client
          • Activities - Final Activities
        • 5 Persistence Patience Insistence Discipline >
          • Activities - Persistence
          • Activities - Patience
          • Activities - Insistence
          • Activities - Discipline
          • Activities - Final Comments
        • 6 Identification and Maintaining Self-Identity >
          • Activities - Identification of the Caregiver with the Client and of the Client with the Caregiver
          • Activities - Maintaining Your Own Identity
          • Activities - Final Comments
          • Education
        • 7 Tolerance and Individualization >
          • Activities - Tolerance and Taking a Non-Judgmental Approach
          • Activities - Individualization
          • Activities - Final Comments
        • 8 Responsibility, Control, and Giving Permission >
          • Activities - Getting the Client to Take Control of His or Her Own Life
          • Activities - Giving the Client Control
          • Activities - Giving the Client Permission
          • Activities - Final comments
        • 9 Giving Time and Space; Listening vs. Preaching >
          • Activities - Giving Time and Space
          • Activities - Listening vs. Preaching
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 10 Gaining and Maintaining Trust >
          • Activities - Honesty
          • Activities- Openness
          • Activities - Directness
          • Activities - Keeping Promises
          • Activities - Humanity
          • Activities - Final Activities
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 11 Ethics >
          • Activities - Do No Harm
          • Activities - Privacy
          • Activities - The Relationship Between the Caregiver and the Client Outside of the Caregiving Situation
          • Activities - Professionalism
          • Activities - Payment and Gifts
          • Activities - Conventions and Codes
          • Activities - Final Activities
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 12 Preparation, Flexibility, and Adaptation >
          • Activities - Preparation
          • Activities - Flexibility and Adaptation
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 13 Religion, Belief, and Hope >
          • Activities - The Role of Belief and Religion
          • Activities - Hope
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 14 Time and Closeness Revisited >
          • Activities - Time
          • Activities - Closeness
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 15 Final Remarks and Activities for this Section >
          • Activities - Final Activities
      • 3 Self-Care >
        • 1 Introduction to this Section >
          • Activities - Introduction
        • 2 Limits >
          • Activities - Time
          • Activities - Physical and Emotional Energy
          • Activities - Acceptance of What We Can and Cannot Do
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 3 Burnout >
          • Activities - Introduction and Definition of Burnout
          • Activities - The Causes of Burnout
          • Activities - Symptoms and Signs of Burnout
          • Activities - Dealing with Burnout
          • Activities - Prevention of Burnout
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 4 Self-Reflection and Self-Criticism >
          • Activity - Self-Reflection and Self-Criticism
        • 5 The Balance Between Professional and Private Life >
          • Activities - Th Balance Between Professional and Personal Life
        • 6 Supervision and Intervision >
          • Activities - Supervision and Intervision
        • 7 Factors Promoting and Detracting from Self-Care
        • 8 Final Remarks and Activities for this Section >
          • Activities - Factors Promoting and Detracting from Self-Care
          • Activities - Final Remarks
      • 4 Final Remarks and Activities for the Course >
        • Activities - Final Remarks for the Course
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      • Yoder-Lopez
      • Tauber
      • Sillett
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          • 1.3. Trening pragmatičnog osnaživanja (PET)
          • 1.4. Uvod u facilitiranje
          • 1.5. Završne napomene o načinu funkcioniranja tečaja
        • 2. Odnos pomagača i korisnika >
          • 2.1. Odnos kao osnova svega
          • 2.2. Osnovna načela
          • 2.3. O jeziku sporazumijevanja i o upoznavanju korisnika
          • 2.4. Stvaranje ugodaja
          • 2.5. Ustrajnost, strpljivost, upornost i disciplina
          • 2.6. Identificiranje s drugima i čuvanje vlastitog identiteta
          • 2.7. Tolerancija, ne osuđujući pristup i individualizacija
          • 2.8. Odgovornost, kontrola, davanje dozvole za izražavanje osjećaja
          • 2.9. Davanje vremena i prostora; slušanje umjesto moraliziranja
          • 2.10. Stjecanje i održavanje povjerenja
          • 2.11. Etika
          • 2.12. Priprema, fleksibilnost i prilagodba
          • 2.13. Vjera, religija i nada
          • 2.14. Ponovimo: Vremenska posvećenost i prisnost s korisnikom
          • 2.15. Završne napomene i aktivnosti
        • 3. Self-Care >
          • 3.1. Uvod
          • 3.2. Ograničenja
          • 3.3. Burnout
          • 3.4. Samopromatranje i samokritika
          • 3.5. Ravnoteža između poslovnog i privatnog života
          • 3.6. Supervizija i intervizija
          • 3.7. Čimbenici i aktivnosti koji potiču ili ometaju Self-care
          • 3.8. Završne napomene i aktivnosti za ovo poglavlje
        • 4. Završne napomene i aktivnosti za ovaj tečaj
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Odnos korisnika i pomagača kao osnova svega

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U ovom poglavlju bit će riječi o interakciji pomagač -  korisnik. Najprije ćemo govoriti općenito o odnosu i razmatrati neka važna  načela rada. Govorit ćemo o  jeziku sporazumijevanja i o tome kako upoznati korisnika. Zatim ćemo  razmotriti  neke važne aspekte interakcije, poput strpljenja i upornosti. Bit će riječi o identifikaciji pomagača s korisnikom i o identifikaciji korisnika s pomagačem te o stjecanju i gubitku povjerenja korisnika. Imati ćemo i vrlo važnu raspravu o etici. Raspravljati ćemo također o vjerovanju i religiji, o nadi.  Reći ćemo nešto i o nekim praktičnim aspektima poput planiranja vremena.
 
ODNOS KAO OSNOVA SVEGA

Brojne studije pokazale su da je odnos između pomagača i korisnika mnogo važniji od specifičnih metoda koje se koriste. Stoga je uspostavljanje i održavanje odnosa ključno. Pomagaču je za to potrebno mnogo vremena, energije i samokritičnosti. Neki su ljudi u tom pogledu prirodno nadareni, drugi pak moraju uložiti više napora. U ovom poglavlju istražit ćemo različite aspekte rada na odnosu i saznati što učiniti ako odnos ne funkcionira.
 
ODGOVORNOSTI POMAGAČA I KORISNIKA

Svatko je odgovoran za svoj život. Koliko god bi pomagač to želio, on - naglašavamo - ne može  biti odgovoran za ono što korisnik čini.
U tom smislu, pomagač je facilitator, tj. on stavlja na raspolaganje vrijeme i okruženje u kojemu korisnik može raditi na sebi. Pomagač ne može prisiliti korisnika da bilo što učini. Najviše što može jest da korisniku dade prijedloge, ali čak i to je upitno.
Psiholog Carl Rogers rekao je da je osoba samoj sebi najbolji stručnjak. Dakle, osim dobrog okruženja u kojemu korisnik može raditi na sebi, pomagač može dati poticaj i podršku. Gotovo uvijek je upravo to potrebno da bi  korisnik mogao novim putovima krenuti naprijed.
 
PRUŽANJE POVOLJNIH UVJETA ZA NAPREDAK

Glavna dužnost pomagača je pružiti sigurno okruženje. Pod tim se podrazumijeva vrijeme  u kojem korisnik bez žurbe može govoriti i raditi na sebi. Fizički prostor mora biti ugodan, po mogućnosti neutralan (“ne medicinski”) te udoban u pogledu temperature, svjetlosti  i boje. Sastanak se ne bi smjelo prekidati. Stoga se, osim u izvanrednim situacijama, mobilne  i ostale telefone mora isključiti. Pomagač ne smije suditi čovjeka kao korisnika već pokušati razumjeti kontekst korisnikovih postupaka. Treba dopustiti i ohrabrivati ​​izražavanje emocija. Korisnika treba poticati da govori o svemu. Na tečaju o komunikaciji opisat ćemo kako voditi razgovor usredotočen na korisnika. Svrha svega je osigurati mjesto na kojemu se mogu razmatrati i najteža pitanja.
 
SPORAZUM IZMEĐU POMAGAČA I KORISNIKA

Sporazum između pomagača i korisnika o međusobnim obvezama vrlo je važan. Zato osim usmeno ponekad napravimo i pismeno (na papir i / ili elektronički), kako ni na jednoj strani ne bi bilo nedoumica.
 
Odgovornosti skrbnika su:
  • pružiti sigurno okruženje
  • zadržati za sebe sve što korisnik kaže, osim ako nije drugačije dogovoreno
  • poticati i ohrabrivati korisnika da istraži sebe i podržati ga u tome
  • zadržati najveću moguću objektivnost prema  korisniku
  • zadržati najviši stupanj profesionalnosti
  • održati sva obećanja koja je dao korisniku, uključujući i ona koja se odnose na vrijeme sastanka, mjesto sastanka, pristojbe, itd.
 
 Obveze korisnika su:
  • savjesno raditi na sebi kako je dogovoreno s pomagačem;
  • preuzeti odgovornost za svoj vlastiti život;
  • pridržavati se dogovora u pogledu vremena dolaska na sastanak, eventualnih pristojbi, itd.
 
Ponekad se strane ne drže ugovora. Dužnost je pomagača da to s korisnikom potanko raspravi.
 
KAD ODNOS NE FUNKCIONIRA

Odnos pomagača i korisnika ponekad neće funkcionirati, ma koliko se trudili. Jedan od mogućih razloga jednostavno je neslaganje osobnosti.  Drugi razlog može biti u tomu što korisnik u pomagaču vidi nekoga tko je bio važan u njegovom životu te reagira na tu osobu, a ne na stvarnu osobu pomagača. Ova vrsta reakcije poznata je kao prijenos. To se također može dogoditi i u suprotnom smjeru, tj. kada pomagač u korisniku vidi nekoga tko je u njegovom životu bio važan te  reagira na tu osobu umjesto na osobu korisnika. To je poznato kao protuprijenos. O prijenosu i protuprijenosu govorit ćemo nešto kasnije  u ovom poglavlju (vidi 2.6.). Zadaća je  pomagača da to prepozna i da o tome  razgovara s korisnikom.

Daljnji mogući razlozi za neuspjeh odnosa može biti to što korisnik ili pomagač ne poštuju dogovor, npr. dolazak na vrijeme ili rad na dogovorenim temama.

Razlog može biti i to što je pomagač procijenio da ne posjeduje vještine ili tehnike potrebne za pomoć korisniku. Također, možda korisnik ne napreduje onako kako je to pomagač očekivao. Mogu postojati i brojni drugi razlozi za neuspjeh odnosa.

Ako odnos ne funkcionira, dužnost je pomagača da to s korisnikom otvoreno i  temeljito raspravi.

Ponekad se problemi mogu riješiti. Katkad je ipak bolje da jedna ili druga strana prekine odnos, barem privremeno. Ako se to dogodi, osim u ekstremnim okolnostima, ostavljamo mogućnost otvorenu kako bi se korisnik mogao vratiti.


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  • Home
  • About Us
    • Who are we?
    • Mission and Vision
    • The Region
    • Profile of Psychological Trauma
    • History
    • Partners
    • Get Involved
    • Reports >
      • Monthly Reports
      • Annual and Semi-Annual Reports
  • Our Work
    • Philosophy
    • Social Inclusion
    • Community-based Training
    • Groups with which We Work
    • Peer Counseling and Self-Help Groups
    • Education >
      • Onsite Education
      • Online Education
      • "Blended" Education in Croatia and Other Regions
      • How You Can Request a Course or Counseling
      • Internships, The Summer Program, and Other Possibilities for Students
    • Supervision
    • Work with people
    • Sensitization
    • The Migrant Project
  • PET (Pragmatic Empowerment Training)
    • Pragmatic Empowerment Training (PET)
    • Course 1-The Caregiver-Client Relationship >
      • 1 Introduction >
        • 1 Introduction to the PET
        • 2 The CWWPP >
          • Introduction to the CWWPP - Comments
        • 3 PET
        • 4 Facilitation
        • 5 Additional Remarks on the Course >
          • Inventarization
      • 2 The Caregiver-Client Relationship >
        • 1 Introduction and the Caregiver Client Relationship as the Basis of Everything
        • 2 Some First Principles >
          • Taking an Interest In and Concentrating on the Client
          • Taking An Attitude of Humanity and Compassion
          • Listening and Responding to the Total Person
        • 3 Some Points About Language and Getting to Know the Client >
          • Activities - Using Language That the Person Can Understand
          • Activities - Taking the Time and Getting As Much Information as Possible
          • Activities - Feelings
          • Activities - Motives
          • Activities - Interests
          • Activities - Content and Its Interpretation
          • Activities - Assumptions
          • Activities - Prejudices
          • Activities - Expectations
          • Activities - Generalizations
          • Activities -Final Remarks
        • 4 Creating the Right Atmosphere >
          • Activities - The Physical Environment
          • Activities - Formality
          • The Theme of the Session
          • Activities - The Presence of Other People in the Session
          • Activities - The Pressure on the Caregiver and the Client
          • Activities - Final Activities
        • 5 Persistence Patience Insistence Discipline >
          • Activities - Persistence
          • Activities - Patience
          • Activities - Insistence
          • Activities - Discipline
          • Activities - Final Comments
        • 6 Identification and Maintaining Self-Identity >
          • Activities - Identification of the Caregiver with the Client and of the Client with the Caregiver
          • Activities - Maintaining Your Own Identity
          • Activities - Final Comments
          • Education
        • 7 Tolerance and Individualization >
          • Activities - Tolerance and Taking a Non-Judgmental Approach
          • Activities - Individualization
          • Activities - Final Comments
        • 8 Responsibility, Control, and Giving Permission >
          • Activities - Getting the Client to Take Control of His or Her Own Life
          • Activities - Giving the Client Control
          • Activities - Giving the Client Permission
          • Activities - Final comments
        • 9 Giving Time and Space; Listening vs. Preaching >
          • Activities - Giving Time and Space
          • Activities - Listening vs. Preaching
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 10 Gaining and Maintaining Trust >
          • Activities - Honesty
          • Activities- Openness
          • Activities - Directness
          • Activities - Keeping Promises
          • Activities - Humanity
          • Activities - Final Activities
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 11 Ethics >
          • Activities - Do No Harm
          • Activities - Privacy
          • Activities - The Relationship Between the Caregiver and the Client Outside of the Caregiving Situation
          • Activities - Professionalism
          • Activities - Payment and Gifts
          • Activities - Conventions and Codes
          • Activities - Final Activities
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 12 Preparation, Flexibility, and Adaptation >
          • Activities - Preparation
          • Activities - Flexibility and Adaptation
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 13 Religion, Belief, and Hope >
          • Activities - The Role of Belief and Religion
          • Activities - Hope
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 14 Time and Closeness Revisited >
          • Activities - Time
          • Activities - Closeness
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 15 Final Remarks and Activities for this Section >
          • Activities - Final Activities
      • 3 Self-Care >
        • 1 Introduction to this Section >
          • Activities - Introduction
        • 2 Limits >
          • Activities - Time
          • Activities - Physical and Emotional Energy
          • Activities - Acceptance of What We Can and Cannot Do
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 3 Burnout >
          • Activities - Introduction and Definition of Burnout
          • Activities - The Causes of Burnout
          • Activities - Symptoms and Signs of Burnout
          • Activities - Dealing with Burnout
          • Activities - Prevention of Burnout
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 4 Self-Reflection and Self-Criticism >
          • Activity - Self-Reflection and Self-Criticism
        • 5 The Balance Between Professional and Private Life >
          • Activities - Th Balance Between Professional and Personal Life
        • 6 Supervision and Intervision >
          • Activities - Supervision and Intervision
        • 7 Factors Promoting and Detracting from Self-Care
        • 8 Final Remarks and Activities for this Section >
          • Activities - Factors Promoting and Detracting from Self-Care
          • Activities - Final Remarks
      • 4 Final Remarks and Activities for the Course >
        • Activities - Final Remarks for the Course
    • Miscellaneous Educational Documents
  • Library
    • Learning Materials and Course Summaries
    • Brochures and Briefing Papers
    • Conference and Scientific Papers
    • Conference Trauma and Mental Heal in Conflict and Migration >
      • Kanda
      • Young
      • Shrusti
      • Dougherty
      • Yoder-Lopez
      • Tauber
      • Sillett
      • Niconchuk
    • Osijek Seminar 7 May 2019
    • InPact Conference May 2019
    • Articles about and by CWWPP
    • Artwork By A Refugee
  • Contact Us
  • Links
  • Donate
  • Koalicija za rad sa psihotraumom i za mir Vukovar
    • O nama
    • Misija i vizija
    • Godisnja financijska i opisna izvjesca
    • Kontakt
    • Živa knjižnica
    • Aktivnosti
    • Naš rad >
      • Naša filozofija
      • Socijalna uključenost
      • Obuka u zajednici
      • Skupine s kojima radimo
      • Peer savjetovanje/Grupe za samopomoć
      • Edukacija
      • Supervizija/Intervizija
      • Senzibilizacija društva/Brošure
      • Projekt Migranti
    • Profil psihološke traume
    • PET Program >
      • Tečaj 1- Odnos pomagača i korisnika >
        • 1. Uvodni dio tečaja >
          • 1.1. Uvod
          • 1.2. O CWWPP-u i početcima PET-a
          • 1.3. Trening pragmatičnog osnaživanja (PET)
          • 1.4. Uvod u facilitiranje
          • 1.5. Završne napomene o načinu funkcioniranja tečaja
        • 2. Odnos pomagača i korisnika >
          • 2.1. Odnos kao osnova svega
          • 2.2. Osnovna načela
          • 2.3. O jeziku sporazumijevanja i o upoznavanju korisnika
          • 2.4. Stvaranje ugodaja
          • 2.5. Ustrajnost, strpljivost, upornost i disciplina
          • 2.6. Identificiranje s drugima i čuvanje vlastitog identiteta
          • 2.7. Tolerancija, ne osuđujući pristup i individualizacija
          • 2.8. Odgovornost, kontrola, davanje dozvole za izražavanje osjećaja
          • 2.9. Davanje vremena i prostora; slušanje umjesto moraliziranja
          • 2.10. Stjecanje i održavanje povjerenja
          • 2.11. Etika
          • 2.12. Priprema, fleksibilnost i prilagodba
          • 2.13. Vjera, religija i nada
          • 2.14. Ponovimo: Vremenska posvećenost i prisnost s korisnikom
          • 2.15. Završne napomene i aktivnosti
        • 3. Self-Care >
          • 3.1. Uvod
          • 3.2. Ograničenja
          • 3.3. Burnout
          • 3.4. Samopromatranje i samokritika
          • 3.5. Ravnoteža između poslovnog i privatnog života
          • 3.6. Supervizija i intervizija
          • 3.7. Čimbenici i aktivnosti koji potiču ili ometaju Self-care
          • 3.8. Završne napomene i aktivnosti za ovo poglavlje
        • 4. Završne napomene i aktivnosti za ovaj tečaj
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