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        • 1 Introduction and the Caregiver Client Relationship as the Basis of Everything
        • 2 Some First Principles >
          • Taking an Interest In and Concentrating on the Client
          • Taking An Attitude of Humanity and Compassion
          • Listening and Responding to the Total Person
        • 3 Some Points About Language and Getting to Know the Client >
          • Activities - Using Language That the Person Can Understand
          • Activities - Taking the Time and Getting As Much Information as Possible
          • Activities - Feelings
          • Activities - Motives
          • Activities - Interests
          • Activities - Content and Its Interpretation
          • Activities - Assumptions
          • Activities - Prejudices
          • Activities - Expectations
          • Activities - Generalizations
          • Activities -Final Remarks
        • 4 Creating the Right Atmosphere >
          • Activities - The Physical Environment
          • Activities - Formality
          • The Theme of the Session
          • Activities - The Presence of Other People in the Session
          • Activities - The Pressure on the Caregiver and the Client
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        • 5 Persistence Patience Insistence Discipline >
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          • Activities - Patience
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          • Activities - Identification of the Caregiver with the Client and of the Client with the Caregiver
          • Activities - Maintaining Your Own Identity
          • Activities - Final Comments
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        • 7 Tolerance and Individualization >
          • Activities - Tolerance and Taking a Non-Judgmental Approach
          • Activities - Individualization
          • Activities - Final Comments
        • 8 Responsibility, Control, and Giving Permission >
          • Activities - Getting the Client to Take Control of His or Her Own Life
          • Activities - Giving the Client Control
          • Activities - Giving the Client Permission
          • Activities - Final comments
        • 9 Giving Time and Space; Listening vs. Preaching >
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          • Activities - Listening vs. Preaching
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        • 11 Ethics >
          • Activities - Do No Harm
          • Activities - Privacy
          • Activities - The Relationship Between the Caregiver and the Client Outside of the Caregiving Situation
          • Activities - Professionalism
          • Activities - Payment and Gifts
          • Activities - Conventions and Codes
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          • Activities - Final Remarks
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          • Activities - Preparation
          • Activities - Flexibility and Adaptation
          • Activities - Final Remarks
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          • Activities - The Role of Belief and Religion
          • Activities - Hope
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 14 Time and Closeness Revisited >
          • Activities - Time
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        • 15 Final Remarks and Activities for this Section >
          • Activities - Final Activities
      • 3 Self-Care >
        • 1 Introduction to this Section >
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        • 2 Limits >
          • Activities - Time
          • Activities - Physical and Emotional Energy
          • Activities - Acceptance of What We Can and Cannot Do
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 3 Burnout >
          • Activities - Introduction and Definition of Burnout
          • Activities - The Causes of Burnout
          • Activities - Symptoms and Signs of Burnout
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          • Activities - Prevention of Burnout
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 4 Self-Reflection and Self-Criticism >
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        • 5 The Balance Between Professional and Private Life >
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        • 6 Supervision and Intervision >
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        • 7 Factors Promoting and Detracting from Self-Care
        • 8 Final Remarks and Activities for this Section >
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          • 2.5. Ustrajnost, strpljivost, upornost i disciplina
          • 2.6. Identificiranje s drugima i čuvanje vlastitog identiteta
          • 2.7. Tolerancija, ne osuđujući pristup i individualizacija
          • 2.8. Odgovornost, kontrola, davanje dozvole za izražavanje osjećaja
          • 2.9. Davanje vremena i prostora; slušanje umjesto moraliziranja
          • 2.10. Stjecanje i održavanje povjerenja
          • 2.11. Etika
          • 2.12. Priprema, fleksibilnost i prilagodba
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SETTING LIMITS AS CAREGIVER

​Introduction
As much as we don’t always want to admit it, we all have limits. There are 24 hours in a day and seven days in a week. Even though we don’t always believe it, we have limits on our physical and emotional energy. Many of us cannot accept that we can do some things and not do others.
 
One issue here is our commitment to our clients. Many of us see what we are doing not as a job for which we are paid but as moral obligations.
 
Yet, when we exceed our limits, we burn out. That means that we cannot function for our clients nor can we function in our personal lives. 
 
Thus, it is imperative that we become aware of our limits and respect them.
 
Time
Fortunately or unfortunately, there are 24 hours in a day and seven days in a week, no more. 
 
Therefore, it is crucial that we create priorities as to how we will spend our time.
 
At least some of our time must be spent on ourselves, our families, and our friends. Human beings function in that way. It also is very good to spend some time in quiet and in reflection. That makes us more functional, that is, more useful to our clients, ourselves, and everyone around us.
 
Even within our work, we must allocate time. Actually, we function better if we take time to reflect on a client and what we have experienced in the contact before and after seeing the client. We generally allow about 10-15 minutes before seeing a client and about 20 minutes to a half hour afterwards to reflect on what the client has told us and how we feel about it. It helps to write up our notes about the client during that period. Also, in our private journals, we have the habit of writing about how we feel personally about the client. We show this to no one. Yet, it helps us to clarify our feelings and get them out. We take somewhat longer – about 45 minutes – after each group. Again, this makes us much more aware of what is happening with the clients and with our feelings about them.
 
Activities
  • What are your priorities for your time allocation?
  • How do you allocate your time with clients?
  • How do you allocate your time during the day?
  • How much time do you allocate your time during the week?
  • How do you feel when you take more time with clients and groups?
  • How do you feel when you take more time betweenclients and groups?
  • How do you feel when you take more time in your private life?
  • Are there situations in which you should not take time, either in your professional life or in your private life?
 
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Physical and Emotional Energy
Working with highly traumatized people takes a great deal of emotional energy. As we have described in the previous section of this course, we identify with them, and have to do so to make the caregiver-client relationship work. Yet, that can exhaust us.
 
The same is true of many situations in our private lives. As much as we love and care about people around us, dealing with the difficult situations that we all have at various moments takes the emotional and physical energy out of us.
 
Again, we need to make priorities and allocate time and activities for ourselves that weenjoy doing, that renew us and give us pleasure and satisfaction. Also, as we will see later in this section, writing and finding ways of getting the frustrations out are very important.
 
Activities
Describe the situations that take up your emotional and physical energy.
Describe how you renew yourself.
What are the priorities for your use of your physical and emotional energy?
How can you change the use of your physical and emotional energy?
 
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Acceptance of What We Can and Cannot Do
As much as we would like to, we cannot change everything that we would want to. As we have repeated a number of times, we cannot change clients’ lives. Only they can do that.
 
Also, there are things within the organizations in which we work and in the societies in which we live and work that we cannot change.
 
Very frequently, there are things in our private lives that we also cannot change.
 
Thus, we need to come to an acceptance of what we can and cannot do, as difficult as that is. We acknowledge that it isdifficult for many of us. We see no other way.
 
Activities
  • Describe a situation that you could not change. How did you deal with it?
  • In the future, are there things that you can do to assist you in accepting things that you cannot change?
 
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Final Remarks
Accepting the limits of time and emotional and physical energy that we all have is difficult for many people, particularly those of us in caring work. Yet, setting priorities and learning to take measures to accept and deal with what we can and cannot do in our professional and private lives is essential if we are to survive. The most experienced professionals have difficulties with this. Thus, we urge you to take the time and make the effort to work through your own situation.

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  • Home
  • About Us
    • Who are we?
    • Mission and Vision
    • The Region
    • Profile of Psychological Trauma
    • History
    • Partners
    • Get Involved
    • Reports >
      • Monthly Reports
      • Annual and Semi-Annual Reports
  • Our Work
    • Philosophy
    • Social Inclusion
    • Community-based Training
    • Groups with which We Work
    • Peer Counseling and Self-Help Groups
    • Education >
      • Onsite Education
      • Online Education
      • "Blended" Education in Croatia and Other Regions
      • How You Can Request a Course or Counseling
      • Internships, The Summer Program, and Other Possibilities for Students
    • Supervision
    • Work with people
    • Sensitization
    • The Migrant Project
  • PET (Pragmatic Empowerment Training)
    • Pragmatic Empowerment Training (PET)
    • Course 1-The Caregiver-Client Relationship >
      • 1 Introduction >
        • 1 Introduction to the PET
        • 2 The CWWPP >
          • Introduction to the CWWPP - Comments
        • 3 PET
        • 4 Facilitation
        • 5 Additional Remarks on the Course >
          • Inventarization
      • 2 The Caregiver-Client Relationship >
        • 1 Introduction and the Caregiver Client Relationship as the Basis of Everything
        • 2 Some First Principles >
          • Taking an Interest In and Concentrating on the Client
          • Taking An Attitude of Humanity and Compassion
          • Listening and Responding to the Total Person
        • 3 Some Points About Language and Getting to Know the Client >
          • Activities - Using Language That the Person Can Understand
          • Activities - Taking the Time and Getting As Much Information as Possible
          • Activities - Feelings
          • Activities - Motives
          • Activities - Interests
          • Activities - Content and Its Interpretation
          • Activities - Assumptions
          • Activities - Prejudices
          • Activities - Expectations
          • Activities - Generalizations
          • Activities -Final Remarks
        • 4 Creating the Right Atmosphere >
          • Activities - The Physical Environment
          • Activities - Formality
          • The Theme of the Session
          • Activities - The Presence of Other People in the Session
          • Activities - The Pressure on the Caregiver and the Client
          • Activities - Final Activities
        • 5 Persistence Patience Insistence Discipline >
          • Activities - Persistence
          • Activities - Patience
          • Activities - Insistence
          • Activities - Discipline
          • Activities - Final Comments
        • 6 Identification and Maintaining Self-Identity >
          • Activities - Identification of the Caregiver with the Client and of the Client with the Caregiver
          • Activities - Maintaining Your Own Identity
          • Activities - Final Comments
          • Education
        • 7 Tolerance and Individualization >
          • Activities - Tolerance and Taking a Non-Judgmental Approach
          • Activities - Individualization
          • Activities - Final Comments
        • 8 Responsibility, Control, and Giving Permission >
          • Activities - Getting the Client to Take Control of His or Her Own Life
          • Activities - Giving the Client Control
          • Activities - Giving the Client Permission
          • Activities - Final comments
        • 9 Giving Time and Space; Listening vs. Preaching >
          • Activities - Giving Time and Space
          • Activities - Listening vs. Preaching
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 10 Gaining and Maintaining Trust >
          • Activities - Honesty
          • Activities- Openness
          • Activities - Directness
          • Activities - Keeping Promises
          • Activities - Humanity
          • Activities - Final Activities
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 11 Ethics >
          • Activities - Do No Harm
          • Activities - Privacy
          • Activities - The Relationship Between the Caregiver and the Client Outside of the Caregiving Situation
          • Activities - Professionalism
          • Activities - Payment and Gifts
          • Activities - Conventions and Codes
          • Activities - Final Activities
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 12 Preparation, Flexibility, and Adaptation >
          • Activities - Preparation
          • Activities - Flexibility and Adaptation
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 13 Religion, Belief, and Hope >
          • Activities - The Role of Belief and Religion
          • Activities - Hope
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 14 Time and Closeness Revisited >
          • Activities - Time
          • Activities - Closeness
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 15 Final Remarks and Activities for this Section >
          • Activities - Final Activities
      • 3 Self-Care >
        • 1 Introduction to this Section >
          • Activities - Introduction
        • 2 Limits >
          • Activities - Time
          • Activities - Physical and Emotional Energy
          • Activities - Acceptance of What We Can and Cannot Do
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 3 Burnout >
          • Activities - Introduction and Definition of Burnout
          • Activities - The Causes of Burnout
          • Activities - Symptoms and Signs of Burnout
          • Activities - Dealing with Burnout
          • Activities - Prevention of Burnout
          • Activities - Final Remarks
        • 4 Self-Reflection and Self-Criticism >
          • Activity - Self-Reflection and Self-Criticism
        • 5 The Balance Between Professional and Private Life >
          • Activities - Th Balance Between Professional and Personal Life
        • 6 Supervision and Intervision >
          • Activities - Supervision and Intervision
        • 7 Factors Promoting and Detracting from Self-Care
        • 8 Final Remarks and Activities for this Section >
          • Activities - Factors Promoting and Detracting from Self-Care
          • Activities - Final Remarks
      • 4 Final Remarks and Activities for the Course >
        • Activities - Final Remarks for the Course
    • Miscellaneous Educational Documents
  • Library
    • Learning Materials and Course Summaries
    • Brochures and Briefing Papers
    • Conference and Scientific Papers
    • Conference Trauma and Mental Heal in Conflict and Migration >
      • Kanda
      • Young
      • Shrusti
      • Dougherty
      • Yoder-Lopez
      • Tauber
      • Sillett
      • Niconchuk
    • Osijek Seminar 7 May 2019
    • InPact Conference May 2019
    • Articles about and by CWWPP
    • Artwork By A Refugee
  • Contact Us
  • Links
  • Donate
  • Koalicija za rad sa psihotraumom i za mir Vukovar
    • O nama
    • Misija i vizija
    • Godisnja financijska i opisna izvjesca
    • Kontakt
    • Živa knjižnica
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    • Naš rad >
      • Naša filozofija
      • Socijalna uključenost
      • Obuka u zajednici
      • Skupine s kojima radimo
      • Peer savjetovanje/Grupe za samopomoć
      • Edukacija
      • Supervizija/Intervizija
      • Senzibilizacija društva/Brošure
      • Projekt Migranti
    • Profil psihološke traume
    • PET Program >
      • Tečaj 1- Odnos pomagača i korisnika >
        • 1. Uvodni dio tečaja >
          • 1.1. Uvod
          • 1.2. O CWWPP-u i početcima PET-a
          • 1.3. Trening pragmatičnog osnaživanja (PET)
          • 1.4. Uvod u facilitiranje
          • 1.5. Završne napomene o načinu funkcioniranja tečaja
        • 2. Odnos pomagača i korisnika >
          • 2.1. Odnos kao osnova svega
          • 2.2. Osnovna načela
          • 2.3. O jeziku sporazumijevanja i o upoznavanju korisnika
          • 2.4. Stvaranje ugodaja
          • 2.5. Ustrajnost, strpljivost, upornost i disciplina
          • 2.6. Identificiranje s drugima i čuvanje vlastitog identiteta
          • 2.7. Tolerancija, ne osuđujući pristup i individualizacija
          • 2.8. Odgovornost, kontrola, davanje dozvole za izražavanje osjećaja
          • 2.9. Davanje vremena i prostora; slušanje umjesto moraliziranja
          • 2.10. Stjecanje i održavanje povjerenja
          • 2.11. Etika
          • 2.12. Priprema, fleksibilnost i prilagodba
          • 2.13. Vjera, religija i nada
          • 2.14. Ponovimo: Vremenska posvećenost i prisnost s korisnikom
          • 2.15. Završne napomene i aktivnosti
        • 3. Self-Care >
          • 3.1. Uvod
          • 3.2. Ograničenja
          • 3.3. Burnout
          • 3.4. Samopromatranje i samokritika
          • 3.5. Ravnoteža između poslovnog i privatnog života
          • 3.6. Supervizija i intervizija
          • 3.7. Čimbenici i aktivnosti koji potiču ili ometaju Self-care
          • 3.8. Završne napomene i aktivnosti za ovo poglavlje
        • 4. Završne napomene i aktivnosti za ovaj tečaj
    • Donirajte
  • Podcast